Happy Friday! Yesterday the sun came out for a little bit and the weekend is supposed to be gorgeous! Some warm weather and sunshine is exactly what my mind, body and soul needs. I’m not heading home for Mother’s Day and will definitely be missing my Mom. I’ll be enjoying the day with Michael’s family instead but will be sure to FaceTime with my Mom before the day ends. I also have a haircut on Saturday and I’m so looking forward to it! My hair needs to be freshened up! We have a birthday party to go to on Saturday and I plan to get some running in. It should be a good weekend! What do you have planned?
I’ve been mentally writing and rewriting this post in my head for months. I’ve put off writing about it because I’ve always felt that I’ll never quite get my thoughts and emotions down in a way that truly expresses how I feel. But I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately so I’ll give it ago. I want to talk about facing your mid-20′s. I’m 25 and if you asked me to describe my life in one word I’d say HARD. I’m fortunate that I have a good job that allows me to live a life I enjoy, I’m lucky to have a family that is always there to support me and love me no matter what. I have friends who at some point or another felt or experienced what I’m going through. I have a boyfriend who is my best friend and picks me up when I feel down, makes me feel like I can do anything and constantly reminds me that it’s ok to feel what I feel because as he says, “25 sucks”. But what I don’t have is life experience or all the answers and I am constantly wondering does it ever get easier?
When you are growing up no one ever tells you that in your 20′s you change in a million ways. In fact, I always remember hearing that being a teenager was tough and that life gets easier. Please, I’d take being 16 over being 25 any day. When I think back to myself at 21 or 22 I’m completely different than I am now. My friends are completely different too. As you go through your 20′s you change, you figure out who you want to be and who you don’t want to be. You realize that some of your friends aren’t what you once thought they were and you move on. That’s hard. If you are like me, you moved to a new city and knew NO ONE. You are forced to make new friends who come from all walks of life and backgrounds. You learn that it’s hard to make true friends. And you learn to value the friends you already have, who have been there for years. In your 20′s you learn it’s better to have a few great friends than a lot of mediocre ones. More so, I’ve learned that the best friend you have in life is yourself.
Dating is hard because you are constantly changing and evolving. It’s hard to find someone who can change and evolve with you. But when you do, it’s amazing and it feels incredible to have a partner by your side. When you fall in love you begin to build a life together, you have mutual friendships, vacations together, you share a home together, and you talk about getting married and having a family. Some of your friends are two steps ahead of you and some are still searching for Mr. or Mrs. Right. You can gush and share every detail with some of your friends because they are genuinely happy for you and with other friends you have to hold back a bit. Your family has to adjust to you sharing your life with someone, sharing holidays and your time with another family. With that comes sometimes disappointing them and hoping that in the end they just realize how happy you are. Navigating each relationship and allowing them to grow with you is hard.
In your 20′s you realize that you can probably do your boss’s job and you are stuck in an entry-level position. You have enough experience to gain more responsibility but not enough to get a promotion or that next level position. You are navigating the always challenging road of speaking up and finding your voice but being professional at the same time. If you are like me, you have experience that translates to a million different careers but you are lost and confused as to which one is the right one. In your mid-20s you learn more through failure than through success. And that is HARD. You think you find the answer but a month later you figure out that for one reason or another it’s not. Some days you feel like all the pieces are falling in to place and other days you feel like you can’t even find a piece to begin.
They say life is a marathon not a sprint right? Just like marathons there are easy miles and hard miles, big hills and little hills. Michael recently compared your mid-20s to Heart Break Hill. When I was running up that during Boston I just kept putting one foot in front of the other and kept on going. It was hard. Your mid 20s is like that. Sometimes you just wish you could quit and life would be easy but it’s all part of the journey so you just keep putting one foot in front of the other. Like a marathon you keep hoping for mile 25 and I suppose your 20′s are like that too. You keep hoping for 30 and keep hoping that it will all seem a little easier.
“As every runner knows, running is about more than just putting one foot in front of the other; it is about our lifestyle and who we are.”
- Joan Benoit Samuelson
You have to stay true to yourself. You can’t be something or someone you are not. You have to follow your heart and trust your gut. And as I like to remind myself, “Your smarter than you think you are.”