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A New Relationship with Workouts

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You might recall that back in the spring I decided not to run a marathon or half-marathon this fall.  It’s the first time in about 9 years I decide not to train for a race.  It was a big decision but I felt that it was important to enjoy the process of planning my wedding and getting married.  I knew that there was no way I could manage it all without being stressed out.  I always take my training and races seriously, even when I say it’s just for fun, and felt it was a stress I could eliminate.  I didn’t think that by changing things up in this way I’d learn valuable lessons and re-shape my relationship with my body but I did.

I feel like I’ve taken a stress away from myself and let go of this fear of not working out like crazy.  Part of my drive to train for races was that I had worked out and trained at such a level for so long that I was fearful of how my body may change if I stopped. Now I know that with moderate exercise (2-3 workouts a week) and portion control I can still look good.  I feel empowered knowing that when I’m ready to train for a marathon again my body can handle the demands of a training schedule and more frequent workouts.  And I feel empowered knowing that when we are ready to start a family or take on life changes that require big time commitments I’ll be able to maintain a healthy weight with a few workouts a week and a healthy diet.

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To that end, I’ve learned that sometimes working out can be stressful- like when you are training for a race and need to get your miles and workouts in so you are prepared for race day.  And sometimes it’s really just fun and stress free.  I’ve stopped viewing workouts as something I NEED to do and started viewing them as something I WANT to do.  I no longer hear myself saying, “I need to go for a run” instead I hear myself saying, “I want to go for a run tonight”.  It’s a little shift in words but mentally it’s a big shift.  You make time for the things you WANT to do and you do it happily. You’ll make time for the things you NEED to do, but it’s not always happy and sometimes it makes you more stressed.  Wanting to do my workouts or go to barre makes them fun and setting aside or finding the time is that much easier.

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I’ve learned that I don’t need to be a “cardio junkie” to feel and look good.  I’ve always felt that I needed to run or spend time on the elliptical to burn calories, maintain my weight and feel good.  But with no race to train for and my hip pain I’ve been running much, much less.  I’ve been hitting the barre and taking yoga more than running.  To my surprise, I am at my lowest weight in years.  I’ve taken enough trainings and read enough to KNOW that I don’t need that much cardio to maintain my weight but it’s another thing to prove it to myself.  I’ve also proven to myself that I don’t need running alone for mental clarity.  The yoga mat can provide that to me just like running can.  And for that matter, barre can too.  It feels so good and it can be so mind clearing to zone out to the music and tune into my body as we do the exercises.

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Most of all, I’ve learned that when I stop putting so much focus on working out I take the focus away from my own judgements on my body.  When I was running and working out upwards of 5-6 days a week I felt so critical of my body.  I’d always be judging myself- was my butt toned enough, were my abs defined, did my arms look toned.  The list goes on.  These days I find myself catching a glimpse in the mirror and giving myself compliments-my legs look great, my butt looks so toned.  When I tried my wedding gown on for my first dress fitting I couldn’t help but compliment myself on how good my arms and back looked.  The last time I had the gown on was in the store and I remember silently criticizing myself for my arms.  Granted I’ve been taking more barre in an effort to tone up so I’m sure it’s paying off but the point is I know I am less focused on workouts and less focused on their results.  If feel and look good I’m happy.  I feel like I need a workout, I’ll make the effort to fit one in.  Somewhere along the way I took away the pressure of working out and looking good and replaced it with a more accepting relationship of both workouts and my body.

Have you ever changed your workout routine and learned something along the way? Tell me!

Wedding, Job and Life…An Update!

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Hi Friends!  Remember me?!  I can’t believe it’s been a solid month and a half since my last post.  Life has kind of gotten the best of me.  Remember when I started my new job in July and was starting to get into the thick of wedding planning as our date approached?  Yep, turns out both those things require a LOT of time and ENERGY.  When I’m not busy working or planning the wedding I’ve been trying to squeeze in workouts and a little bit of downtime.  And downtime these days is basically me staring at the TV because I’m just totally ready for a break.  Apologies for the lack of posting…I’ll try to be better! I promise!

So what have I been up to?! Well, mostly wedding things.  With November 15th rapidly approaching we are in the final stages of planning all our little details.  If you don’t know, Michael’s an architect and designer.  He’s been loving the wedding and adding tons of little details and creative touches.  Think signs, custom details, our own personal logo and so much more.  I can’t wait to share photos of the big day with you.  Anyway, all that DIY takes time.  We’re also writing our own ceremony which is much harder than I ever thought it would be.  It involves a lot of staring at the computer.  Most people won’t remember the ceremony details and every word spoken but for Michael and I this is what the day is all about and we want it to be special and a reflection of us.  I think we’ll probably write something amazing when we’re under a deadline.  Beyond that we’ve been picking out table linens, and dishes, planning our menu, pairing wines, picking out first dance songs and getting all our vendors the info they need!  October should be fun, I have my hair trial and makeup trial and my final dress fittings.  I’m excited for both.  Oddly enough, I’m also looking forward to all my pre-wedding beauty appointments.  I find getting a haircut, eyebrow wax and pedicure to be super relaxing and pampering!

August and September brought both my bachelorette and bridal shower.  I have some amazing friends and family who planned beautiful parties for me!  My bachelorette was a fun, low-key beach day.  We headed up to Good Harbor beach in Gloucseter early in the morning and 10 of my closest girlfriends and I spent the day chatting it up, walking the beach, swimming, drinking sangria and eating an amazing spread of food.  Most of my girlfriends hadn’t met each other and those that did had only met once at a BBQ Michael and I threw in July.  It was incredible how well everyone got along and bonded.  I’ve loved seeing them all connect via Facebook and email and form their own friendships after that weekend!  After an incredible beach day we stopped in downtown Gloucester for a beer at the brewery before heading back to my house for even more amazing food and drinks.  Seriously, the food was unreal.  Everyone drank wine, and chatted over dinner before cake and fun bachelorette games.  Some of best friends and my cousins live in NY and PA so we had a full house.  It was so fun to stay up late gabbing and catching up.  I had a blast and loved every minute of it!

My Mom and Maid of Honor threw me a shower a few weeks ago.  I have to admit I really didn’t want a shower but I’m incredibly glad I had one.  It was really fun to see my family and parents friends I haven’t seen in a while and celebrate with all the ladies.  My mom decorated our house so cute with bridal themed center pieces, Mr. and Mrs. signs, and bells.  Purple is my favorite color so she was sure to work that in with purple napkins and invitations.  Michael’s Italian so all the food was italian themed and she had tons of wine.  She made stuffed shells, lemon chicken, shrimp, sausage and peppers, green beans, caesar salad with my Dad’s homemade dressing, greens beans and bread from the italian bakery with this incredible pesto.  Talk about a spread!  The cake was amazing too.  And for favors my mom had wine glasses made with our wedding logo.  So cute!  It was just wonderful to see everyone and celebrate.  Even my future in-laws came, they drove the 3 hours to be there which was so special!

All the celebrating was a nice break to the planning and it definitely got me even more excited for the big day.  I have some incredible family and friends and am so thankful for all that they’ve done for me!

Beyond the wedding, I’ve been hitting the barre a ton!  I’ve increased my classes to two times a week and I feel incredible!  It’s such a quick, easy and fun workout and it gets results.  It’s perfect for my busy schedule these days.  I also started taking a combo cardio and barre class which I LOVE.  It’s 30 minutes of cardio moves and 30 minutes of weight work.  It kicks my butt every time. Running hasn’t really been happening much lately.  I’ve had a lot of pain in my hip for over a year now.  In January my doctor referred me to a physical therapist and after months of procrastinating I finally went a few weeks ago.  I’d gone to yoga and that night I was in agony.  My hip was throbbing and it really hurt to move so I decided it was time to see what was going on.  The physical therapist told me that my SI joint, piriformis, IT band were all inflamed.  He thought this was indicative of a deeper issue, like a joint injury.  He told me PT really wouldn’t help much if that’s the case and I need an MRI.  His suggestion was to lay off the running and head to yoga and barre a bit more.  I took his advice and have only run once a week the last few weeks.  The good news is that running less makes my hip hurt less.  The bad news is that when I do run, I’m in pain the next day.  I’m planning to get an MRI after the wedding and honeymoon and go from there.  I haven’t done much yoga these days but am ready to get back on the mat and build my practice.  I miss it.

My new job has been awesome and given me some really cool opportunities like attending Hubspot’s Inbound conference.  I learned so much in the 3 days I was there and loved it.  Plus the keynote speakers were awesome.  Simon Sinek’s talk on leadership was one of my favorites.  If you aren’t familiar with him, check out his TED talk.  Shiza Shahid was incredibly inspiring.  She’s the co-founder of the Malala fund.  If you aren’t familiar with her story I suggest you read up on her.  It’s just a good reminder that life gives us opportunities and it’s up to us to use them to make a positive difference in the world.  I left the conference feeling inspired about my work and life in general.  I was also happy to see that many of you found my tweets and Instagrams about the conference motivating and inspiring!

So that’s a quick update on my life!  It’s mostly wedding but there’s still lots of good healthy food and workouts going on.  I hope to have more time and return to regular programming soon!  I miss writing and sharing bits and pieces of my life with you all.  In the meantime, be sure to follow me on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook for real-time life updates!

Tell me, what have you all been up to?!